(Ephesians 5:28) So men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Some years ago I was talking with a young man and he candidly said to me “you know I really shouldn’t feel this way but sometimes when I look at my wife she just doesn’t do it for me anymore. I really can’t remember how I responded to his comment because I was so astounded and astonished. I recently heard a woman make the same comment about her husband that he didn’t do it for her anymore. I sat there thinking to myself boy satan is really working overtime when it comes to marriages. Here some years later things aren’t getting any better instead they are getting worse. I saw recently where Christian couples are now getting divorced at a higher rate than non-Christians if this is a fact then this is quite alarming.
Our scripture text tells us that men should love their wives as their own bodies and that a man who loves his wife loves himself. One of the reasons that I was inspired to write the book How Two Become One is because so many husbands and wives never become one. The husband neglects to love his wife as he does himself. For the man and woman that I mentioned in the beginning whose spouses just didn’t do it for them any longer both were being shallow and selfish. As we get older we change physically, emotionally and even mentally. However as we change we don’t decide to give up on ourselves because we’ve gotten a little fatter or lost a few teeth and now need dentures. As we live in most cases we are still comfortable and satisfied with ourselves. The same should be said even more so with our spouses any of us can look at pictures of our youth and wish we could have retained our youthful looks and body.
(Proverbs 5:18) Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. (Proverbs 5:19) Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. It is sad when husbands and wives decide after years of marriage that they want a new spouse. They treat their spouse as if he or she was an old car and they wanted a newer model. Forget about the fact that they are no longer the woman or man that they once were. One thing can be said for the spouses of these type of people just like that old car they’re dependable. New cars often look appealing and dazzling in the show room they can even feel great when taking a test drive. However you can always bring home a lemon. That old car started on the worst of days and one day that shiny new car won’t even start when the temperature drops just a little bit.
I remember the story of a man whose wife died during his period of grief there was woman who stood right by him and comforted him. Eventually they married and he became ill to the point that he had to be hospitalized. While he was in the hospital his second wife the same woman who stood by his side during his time of grief and if memory serves me correctly was also a nurse. This same woman who he thought was for him never once visited him in the hospital. Consequently after he was discharged from the hospital one of the first things he did was divorce his second wife. In a marriage just like many other things in life you really don’t know what you have until it’s tested.
If you are married and your husband or wife has put up with you and your short comings year in and year out when you look at him or her. If the thought enters your mind that he or she no longer does it for you they are no longer as attractive or sexy as they used to be. Maybe they’ve lost a few or a lot of their teeth. Wrinkles have replaced smooth skin and there are a few extra pounds here and there. Then you have a problem because what price can be put on the years of their devotion and commitment to you. The fact that they stuck with you through thick and thin covered up for your mistakes, when you were at the lowest of the low they were there. How dare you allow yourself to entertain such thoughts? If this is you repent today and double even triple your efforts to make your spouse as happy as they can be living in these last and evil days Be Encouraged and Blessed Minister Mike.
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