I’m in Love with a Church Girl
(2Co 6:14) Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship does righteousness have with lawlessness? And what partnership does light have with darkness? (2Ti 3:16) All Scripture is God-breathed, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness,
There is a lot of hype and talk about the movie “I’m in love with a church girl” which is produced and backed by Christians. This fact in and of itself is sad if you view the trailer the movie’s theme is nothing new it’s the typical story of the bad guy who falls in love with the good girl/ church girl. Which is the problem that I have, why does it always have to be about the bad guy who turns good? Why don’t we have more movies that have story lines of people who get it and do what’s right? Is it because even amongst believers it is more appealing to tell the story of the bad that become good? Don’t get me wrong it is always good to see and hear these types of awesome stories of deliverance.
However I believe that this movie will subliminally if not overtly send the wrong message to Christian women both young and old. While our base scripture 2Corinthians 6:14 does not directly deal with marriage it can and probably should be applied to it. One of the reasons that I believe I was inspired to write the book “How Two Become One” is because of the alarming number of divorces amongst Christian couples. (2Ti 3:16) All Scripture is God-breathed, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness. When we actually study scripture there is a consistent pattern throughout scripture. One that shows us how to go about finding the man or woman that is ordained by God for us to spend the rest of our lives with. So far in my studies throughout both the Old and New Testament I have not found anything that even remotely resembles dating. So why do Christians of all ages and stages of life date?
People have asked me then what is a person to do when it comes to finding a mate? The first thing you should do is pray to make sure that the Holy Spirit guides you through the process and not your flesh. I also use the example of my mom and dad they had cousins that were married to each other that introduced them to each other. The cousins acted as their chaperones until they were married. People have told me that couples need to spend time together in order to find out about each other. However there is nowhere in scripture where I can find where this was practiced or condoned. To this day amongst Hasidic Jews unmarried women and men are not left alone. They aren’t even allowed to sit close together until they are married. The problem with many of our churches today is that we have allowed the trends and norms of society to infiltrate those of the church. Scripture tells us that (Mat 5:13) You are the salt of the earth, but if the salt loses its savor, with what shall it be salted? It is no longer good for anything, but to be thrown out and to be trodden underfoot by men. (Mat 5:14) You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. (Mat 5:16) Let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your Father who is in Heaven.(Mat 5:17) Do not think that I have come to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I have not come to destroy but to fulfill.
As Christians we are not to reflect the trends and norms of the day we are called to be an example. While I’m sure there are examples of couples where one was saved and the other wasn’t yet things turned out ok. The movie “I’m in love with a church girls” sends the wrong message to Christian women period. In 1 Corinthians 7 chapter the Apostle Paul provides instruction on how Christians who are married to unbelievers should conduct themselves. His instructions are not an endorsement for these types of marriages. As I’ve stated I do not believe that the concept of dating is in line with any biblical teachings or principle, yet alone dating with unbelievers. Christian families as well as the churches they attend and belong to have a responsibility to protect their women. In Genesis 34th chapter the sons of Jacob kill all the males of an entire city because one young man slept with their sister. Even though the young man desired to marry their sister that fact that he defiled her was enough for them to kill all the males of an entire city.
As I stated while I celebrate, admire, and champion the awesome stories of redemption. The movie “I’m in love with a church girl” is even produced by a person who has such a testimony. It even features the rapper Ja Rule who was recently released from prison and hopefully is on the path to redemption. This movie actually promotes what is often referred to as Missionary Dating in most cases it’s a Christian young lady dating an unbeliever in many cases the young men are involved or have been involved in criminal activities. These young women feel that they can change these young men. This can be flawed and in some cases fatal thinking on the part of these young women. Whether woman or man getting involved with someone thinking that you can help change them is not the route to go and can prove to be fatal. My advice to anyone who is attracted to someone who is an unbeliever or living a violent and Godless lifestyle don’t get involved. I’ve played for funerals where these types of relationships ended in the death of one of those involved. Point those who don’t know the Lord to the Lord limit your contact and involvement with them. Pray for them, watch them, and should the Lord change them and redeem them seek his guidance as to whether or not you should marry them. To all the TV and Movie producers out there why not tell and share more stories of those who get it right and live right as best they can considering, that no one is perfect. Let God take care of the bottom line Be Encouraged and Blessed Minister Mike.
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