(Hebrews 13:4) Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Sex, Sex, Sex, you find it everywhere on the internet, on TV, just about anywhere you go you see some image, word or hear sexually suggestive lyrics. Sex is all around us and with all things God created it is good at the same time as with all things God created man has found a way to defile or make unclean that which God made wholesome and pure. We are sexual beings good created us that way not only for procreation but for our enjoyment also. This brings us to our topic Who is The Master of Masturbation?
The idea for this blog entry came to me last week and I told my wife about it, as with many things she looked at me like I was strange or crazy. As I was thinking about the topic of masturbation I was thinking that writing this blog could be offensive to some and way out there to others. At the same time I felt that it was a topic that needed to be addressed on a regular basis as real people deal with real life and with real life comes the reality that people masturbate. If you search online there are posts both for and against masturbation from a biblical stand point.
There are some that use the following scripture as an example that masturbation is a sin. (Gen 38:8) And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother’s wife, and perform the duty of a husband’s brother unto her, and raise up seed to thy brother. (Gen 38:9) And Onan knew that the seed would not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother’s wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest he should give seed to his brother. (Gen 38:10) And the thing which he did was evil in the sight of Jehovah: and he slew him also. This scripture does not depict masturbation as Onan did have sexual intercourse with his brother’s widow as required according to custom. What he did not do was allow his sperm or seed to enter inside of his brother’s widow’s body because he knew that if she became pregnant that the children would have to be raised as his dead brother’s children and not his.
However we can use this scripture as an example of number one disobedience on Onan’s part. Secondly we can point out that Onan by spilling seed on the ground he wasted it. One of the first instructions God gave to Adam and Eve was to be fruitful and multiply. Sexual intercourse is meant for procreation first of all and the fact that it’s pleasurable is a byproduct that God added to the act. I believe that any and all sexual activity is meant exclusively for the marriage bed and our base scripture points out that the marriage bed is honorable and undefiled.
I was actually thinking about not addressing the issue of masturbation until I came across the following link on Facebook. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/01/masturbate-a-thon-2013_n_3192430.html?ir=Weird+News
I was shocked to find out that annually there are masturbate-a-thons held throughout the country. People masturbate to raise money for various causes and that May is National Masturbation Month. There are websites devoted to masturbation where you can find out how to masturbate, Masturbation is also called self –love.
The dictionary defines masturbation as the stimulation or manipulation of one’s own genitals, especially to orgasm; sexual self-gratification. Those last two words are what I’d like to focus own self-gratification. I believe that masturbation is a selfish act one that God is not pleased with. Personally I stopped masturbating when I was real young I would feel dirty after I did it. Eventually I realized that it was just something that I shouldn’t do plain and simple. (1Ti 5:6) But she who lives in self-pleasure has died while living. What is masturbation if not self –pleasure. (1Co 7:8) I say therefore to the unmarried and the widows, It is good for them if they remain even as I. (1Co 7:9) But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn. (Gal 5:22) But the fruit of the Spirit is: love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faith, (Gal 5:23) meekness, self-control; against such things there is no law. (Gal 5:24) But those belonging to Christ have crucified the flesh with its passions and lusts.
Self-control, passions and lusts there is no way that anyone can say that the act of masturbation is one of self-control. It has to be acting out some form of passionate and lustful desires. The act of orgasm was designed by God for husbands and wives to be experienced during sexual intercourse. There is a lot of information available on the benefits of sex between a man and woman. To be pleasing in the sight of God husbands and wives are the only ones who should be sexually active. Nowadays sex with anyone and in some cases anything is okay. Sex includes the physical, spiritual, and the emotional, which is why I ask the question. Who’s The Master in Masturbation? When you masturbate who are you connecting with? Who are you growing closer to? Who are you bonding with? The apostle Paul was not married at the same time I doubt seriously if he masturbated because that would have been deemed as a lack of self-control.
Sex is awesome when in the context that God designed and intended it to be practiced in. Male sperm is the seed of life and should not be wasted. Even after child bearing years there are health benefits for a woman when it comes to a man’s sperm. During certain sexual acts it is found that breast cancer can be reduced by as much as 50% via male sperm. Semen is also an anti-depressant, and may prevent preeclampsia. As you view the health benefits of sex as well as male semen or sperm for women, you also find the health risks for those women and men who have multiple sex partners.
Biblically sex was always between a husband and wife or man and his concubine. One might ask the question can a man have a concubine in today’s society my answer is that’s another topic for another time. What I do find interesting is Christians in other cultures in some cases a man may have more than one wife but that too is another topic for another time. While some may say that the bible is somewhat silent or unclear when it comes to masturbation I disagree. Masturbation is a sexual act and the bible is clear that sex is for the marriage bed and whatever is done in the marriage bed is undefiled. Any form of sex outside of marriage is sinful period. If you read this blog and practice masturbation I encourage you to think about whether or not God is pleased with the practice. I for one think not and truly believe that sex should always be between a man and a woman in the context of what God will allow. Be Encouraged and Blessed Minister Mike